Well, coming out for me has been a loooong process. It wasn´t simply opening the closet door and be done with it!!! It was more like opening the door in slow motion! (through a decade and a little bit more!) In my adolescence I had already had some feelings of love for girls. In fact, at the time, homosexuality was seen as something kind of normal within my circle of friends so I wasn’t ostracized for thinking about it.
I had some experiences with boys in my youth and, of course, they were all disastrous. I finally came to the conclusion that being with boys was probably not the path for me… And then I met Courtney and my life took a 360 degree turn. Finally I had found someone that helped me to see and feel life in way that I had never seen or felt before. Concerning the “closet”, Courtney had been super out for a long time. Aided by the experiences she shared with me, her family and friends, my friends and our growing friends made in common, I was finally able to open the closet door to my family. In some of my family member’s minds, Courtney started out to be a friend, then a super friend, then my girlfriend, then the mother of our daughter and finally my wife.J
The issue had been easily resolved from my end, the difficult part was getting my family to accept and embrace my feelings. While this process has been ongoing for the last 14 years it has been very interesting. Overall, I´m very happy with the trip we´ve been making together.
Professionally speaking, I have only shared my life in a few of the places that I have worked. It is true that society has changed its view of homosexuality a lot in the last 14 years. Happily I have come to the conclusion that it would probably have been the same if I had shared my life in those places. I have taken the decision to never hide this important piece of my life again. In my last two interviews in two different social organizations, it was important for me to share my personal situation. I didn´t have too much luck, even though I had the experience and skills for the jobs required. It may be just coincidence!!!
My identity is fundamental to me. My family exists and it is a fantastic family that gives me so much joy and strength to carry on. I just want to spread my joy to the winds…
Evan´s birth and her growth have also been and continue to be very important for my personal growth. One thing I know is that I´m an extremely happy person.
I had some experiences with boys in my youth and, of course, they were all disastrous. I finally came to the conclusion that being with boys was probably not the path for me… And then I met Courtney and my life took a 360 degree turn. Finally I had found someone that helped me to see and feel life in way that I had never seen or felt before. Concerning the “closet”, Courtney had been super out for a long time. Aided by the experiences she shared with me, her family and friends, my friends and our growing friends made in common, I was finally able to open the closet door to my family. In some of my family member’s minds, Courtney started out to be a friend, then a super friend, then my girlfriend, then the mother of our daughter and finally my wife.J
The issue had been easily resolved from my end, the difficult part was getting my family to accept and embrace my feelings. While this process has been ongoing for the last 14 years it has been very interesting. Overall, I´m very happy with the trip we´ve been making together.
Professionally speaking, I have only shared my life in a few of the places that I have worked. It is true that society has changed its view of homosexuality a lot in the last 14 years. Happily I have come to the conclusion that it would probably have been the same if I had shared my life in those places. I have taken the decision to never hide this important piece of my life again. In my last two interviews in two different social organizations, it was important for me to share my personal situation. I didn´t have too much luck, even though I had the experience and skills for the jobs required. It may be just coincidence!!!
My identity is fundamental to me. My family exists and it is a fantastic family that gives me so much joy and strength to carry on. I just want to spread my joy to the winds…
Evan´s birth and her growth have also been and continue to be very important for my personal growth. One thing I know is that I´m an extremely happy person.